You wouldn’t know it now, but I had to be dragged, kicking and screaming, into the digital age.  An unpleasant experience with coding in my freshman year of college convinced me that technology was evil.

Fast forward fifteen years, and now I debug HTML with a minimal amount of cursing.  Strange days, indeed.

But while I’ve never fully embraced the capabilities of PDAs like my old Blackberry or my cell phone, and Kyle and I used his Palm Pilot primarily to play Dope Wars (and I will forever and ever be the top scorer!), the project manager in me loves the idea of organizing my world even more so than it is already.

Cozi Central is a free organizational software product pioneered by some former Microsoft employees.  You can use it to set up and modify family schedules, task lists, shopping lists, and even upload pictures.  Finally, everyone can be on the same page - literally.

Although it’s going to take more time for us to fully integrate Cozi into our lifestyle, I can already see plenty of ways in which we can take advantage of its capabilities.  For example, collaborating on the grocery list will be a tremendous help for us.  I also think we could use the calendar for meal planning, which goes hand in hand with grocery shopping.  That may not sound like a big deal to you, but figuring out what to have for dinner - and assessing whether we have the right ingredients - is a recurring challenge for us.

Our family schedule hasn’t yet become too unmanageable, but it soon will be.  My older daughter starts kindergarten in a few months, and with school comes a plethora of details to track - not to mention the logistics of drop-off and pick-up, and pre-school for my younger daughter, and remembering which nights Kyle works late, and I haven’t even begun to consider my own schedule yet.  Hey, maybe if we mothers input all the tasks that we handle each day, our husbands would see how busy we really are!

Speaking of tasks, that’s another feature of Cozi Central that we can really use - creation and management of task lists.  There’s always a million things that need to be done, and even though you can keep a grocery list on the refrigerator, it’s not so easy to maintain a task list that way.  You’ll probably head out to get the groceries within a week at the most, but some of those big tasks can take months to finish.  Cozi allows you to keep track of them without cluttering up the refrigerator or forgetting to finish what you started six months ago.

You may not think you need organizational software, but Cozi is free - so why not give it a try?  And give yourself a month or so to play with it and find new ways to make it fit your needs.  You just may find that you’re using your cell phone for more than Tetris and texting your partner to bring home another bottle of wine.

Cozi Central can be downloaded from their home page - the PC version requires XP with Service Pack 2, and Macs can use the web access version of Cozi.

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While I’m not currently pregnant, nor planning to become pregnant again, I recently read a book about pregnancy that struck me as revolutionary - revolutionary because it focuses not solely on the physical health of the baby, but on the physical and emotional health of the mother as well.  I read my share of pregnancy tomes, and rarely if ever did I see the mother’s health taken into consideration, except as it directly impacted the health of the developing baby.  And the mother’s emotional health - her feelings about pregnancy and impending motherhood - simply was not discussed.  Furthermore, medical guidance is usually presented as paramount, without teaching mothers-to-be to listen to their own bodies as well.

Body, Soul, and Baby, written by Dr. Tracy W. Gaudet, is an all-encompassing resource for anyone on the “fertility pathway”, as Dr. Gaudet terms the timeframe between pre-conception and post-partum.  The author is the director of the Duke Center for Integrative Medicine, as well as a practicing board-certified OB-GYN, and her view of pregnancy is that since it is typically not a disease-state, it merits a different approach than other medical conditions.

I reflected back on both of my pregnancies while reading Body, Soul, and Baby, and it reaffirmed many of the choices I made.  I was fortunate to have excellent medical care at the Weill Cornell Medical Center on the upper east side of Manhattan, and both of my OB-GYNs (Caitlin Fiss and Robin Kalish) were kind and compassionate young women whom I missed greatly after I delivered and no longer saw them regularly.  I always felt that I could speak openly with them - despite their busy schedules - and that they treated me with respect.

During my first pregnancy, a host of external distractions (like terrorist attacks and threatened and actual firings) kept me from focusing as closely as I should have on my emotional health.  I also didn’t have family nearby or an adequate support network.  And while Kyle was wonderful, he had his own worries too.  Tacy was born via c-section at 41 weeks 5 days, after 30 hours of pitocin-induced labor - during which I progressed to a whopping 3cm.

While my physical recovery, even with a c-section, was a breeze - I walked home from the hospital and strolled Tacy to Central Park two days later - my emotional health was in trouble.  After all the external stressors during my pregnancy, as well as a move from the city to New Jersey at 6 weeks post-partum, I needed help.  Anti-depressants worked wonders, as did the passage of time (and a baby who learned to suck her thumb and sleep through the night).

I took the lessons of my first pregnancy to heart, especially those that pertained to my emotional health.  While I stopped the anti-depressants prior to conception (but resumed them after the 20-week ultrasound), I began seeing a psychiatry resident through the Payne Whitney Women’s Program at Weill Cornell.  Dr. Fiss - who saw me once during my second pregnancy (before she was put on bed rest due to her own pregnancy complications) - recommended the clinic (founded by her friend, Dr. Catherine Birndorf).  It was an invaluable resource for me, along with my online support network of working moms - and Kyle too, of course.

In light of my labor and delivery woes the first time around, and my easy-breezy physical recovery, Dr. Kalish and I agreed on a scheduled c-section for my second delivery.  While I never lost sight of the fact that I was undergoing surgery, I have to say that my second delivery was infinitely more pleasant than the first.  I was rested and relaxed, smiling and eagerly anticipating my new baby.  And I was fortunate to have another ideal recovery - both physically and emotionally.

While I’m not familiar with most types of alternative medicine - either in theory or in practice - I might have been willing to try some different options (such as hypnosis) if my pregnancies had been more difficult.  As it was, self-induced mind-over-matter strategies worked very well for me.  I was cognizant of what my body (and, the second time, my mind as well) was feeling and what it needed.  And with the help of my doctors, I felt able to make conscious decisions each step of the way.

To me, that’s the crux of Dr. Gaudet’s book.  Not that there’s a right way or a wrong way to manage a pregnancy, but that each woman’s situation differs so greatly - even from her previous pregnancies - that all points must be considered when making decisions.  Also, a woman should not leave all decisions entirely up to her doctor, or submit to guidance without asking questions and feeling comfortable with the prescribed course of action.  Not only does she do herself a disservice, but her doctor as well - she’s unintentionally withholding information about her own feelings that might be crucial to the doctor’s assessment of her condition.  Personally, in retrospect, I feel as if I should have given Dr. Fiss more information about my mental state and my emotional health - information that would have helped her better determine my risk for post-partum depression.

I would highly recommend this book to any woman of child-bearing age, and I would also suggest it to grandmothers-to-be as a gift to their daughters or daughters-in-law.  Even after the fact, I found it infinitely more helpful and reassuring than any other book I read while pregnant.  Furthermore, I would suggest it to other practicing OB-GYNs as a resource for advising their patients of the multitudes of non-invasive options for managing pregnancy and making it as wonderful an experience as possible.

To buy your own copy of Body, Soul, and Baby - click here.